Six ways to make people Like you
Rule 1: Become genuinely intrested in other people.
1. "Do this and you will be welcome anywhere"
2. "You can make more friends in two months by becoming intrested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people intrested in you"
3."Ask questions to other people, questions that they would enjoy answering."
......Being genuinely
interested in others is a way to make friends much faster. Means finding out things that you both have in
common. It is easy to relate to someone when you guys have things in common. I know that we all like talking about ourselves
and our interests. I’m sure a person
gets tired of hearing just about you like if everything revolved around you. We
should give them a chance to talk about themselves as well or their opinions. Listen
carefully to what they person is telling you and what it means. Don’t interrupt
them while they speak because that makes it seem like you aren’t interested.
Ask them questions that you’ll know they can answer and not feel weird. If you barely
know the people do not ask them something very personal. For example, let the person you are talking
finish their thoughts and then you can go on and talk. Look straight at them
not pass them and don’t think about anything else.
I will apply
this in my school so that I can make more friends, I will be more interested in
the people instead of trying to get them to be interested in me.
“I have discovered from personal
experience that one can win the attention and time and cooperation of even the
most sought-after people by becoming genuinely interested in them.”
Rule2. Smile
1.”Actions speak louder than words, and a smile says “I like you. You make me
happy. I am glad to see you.”
2. “You don’t feel like smiling? Then force yourself to smile.”
3.”It creates happiness in the home, fosters good will in a business, and is
the countersign (witness or indication) of friends.”
To smile is a great way to get people to like you and so that they won’t think
you are a mean person. It shows the
person that you are happy to be talking to them or that you have seen them. It
gives them a god feeling of being wanted around by you. There are some great
benefits for smiling like one is that smiling is contagious. Smiling can help you lower your stress and
anxiety. If you smile it will make you
more approachable. Someone can easily come and talk to you but if you don’t smile
you’ll look mad and it will difficult for someone to approach you. If you don’t
smile you won’t look friendly to people and then it will be harder to have
friends. Smiling is also healthy if you want to change your mood it is simple
just smile. It doesn’t cost much to show people a smile while they walk by or as
you talk to them. When you smile you release chemicals like serotonin and
dopamine this not only relaxes your body, but it can lower your heart rate and
blood pressure. For example, if you go out to a place or even during school
smile at the people around you.
I will apply
this in school and I will smile so that I can be approachable and so that he
helps me with my mood.
“We shall never know all the good
that a simple smile can do.”
Rule 3:
Remember names
1. "A man's name is to him the sweetest and most important sound in any language."
2. "If you don't remember names, you are headed for trouble."
Remembering a person’s name can make the person feel recognized. It’s not a good thing when you can’t remember someone’s name even though they have told you it. Especially if you guys have talked and then you blank out on their name is embarrassing. Remembering names is so important, like you can’t even imagen it. To you it might seem dumb but not to the person they feel like you are actually interested. Or tell me this; don’t you get happy when someone calls you by your name? Isn’t it a good feeling, you don’t even expect it. A Good way to remember a name is to repeat it. Repeat it to yourself a couple of times and that will work. Ask the person if they could spell out their name. Connect to it maybe you have family members who have the same name. Choose to care; choose to remember it because you want to. For example, when you meet someone who has your mom’s name it will be easier for you to memorize it.
Rule 5: Talk
in terms of the other man’s interest
“The royal road to a man’s heart is to talk to him about the things he treasures most.”
Finding out what other people are interested in can be a good way to get someone to like you. You might come to find that you guys have things in common. They might be passionate about something that you are too. We are more able to like someone when they are interested in things we are. Let them talk to you about what they feel passionate about. You might not like it but gives them a chance to give u details about it. With the details that they might give you, you might actually feel interested in it. It’s always also good to talk about your own interest but don’t just go on the whole time talking about yourself. Show them respect. Show them that you actually interested in knowing about them and what they like. For example, if they like soccer and you don’t let them give you details on soccer and why they like it.
Rule 3:
Remember names1. "A man's name is to him the sweetest and most important sound in any language."
2. "If you don't remember names, you are headed for trouble."
Remembering a person’s name can make the person feel recognized. It’s not a good thing when you can’t remember someone’s name even though they have told you it. Especially if you guys have talked and then you blank out on their name is embarrassing. Remembering names is so important, like you can’t even imagen it. To you it might seem dumb but not to the person they feel like you are actually interested. Or tell me this; don’t you get happy when someone calls you by your name? Isn’t it a good feeling, you don’t even expect it. A Good way to remember a name is to repeat it. Repeat it to yourself a couple of times and that will work. Ask the person if they could spell out their name. Connect to it maybe you have family members who have the same name. Choose to care; choose to remember it because you want to. For example, when you meet someone who has your mom’s name it will be easier for you to memorize it.
I will apply
this when I meet a new person. I will repeat it to myself a couple of times and
even ask them to spell it out for me.
“One forgets words as one forgets
names. One's vocabulary needs constant fertilizing or it will die.”
Rule 5: Talk
in terms of the other man’s interest “The royal road to a man’s heart is to talk to him about the things he treasures most.”
Finding out what other people are interested in can be a good way to get someone to like you. You might come to find that you guys have things in common. They might be passionate about something that you are too. We are more able to like someone when they are interested in things we are. Let them talk to you about what they feel passionate about. You might not like it but gives them a chance to give u details about it. With the details that they might give you, you might actually feel interested in it. It’s always also good to talk about your own interest but don’t just go on the whole time talking about yourself. Show them respect. Show them that you actually interested in knowing about them and what they like. For example, if they like soccer and you don’t let them give you details on soccer and why they like it.
I can apply
this in school when talking to someone; I will let them tell me all about their
interests without interruption.
“To pay attention, this is our
endless and proper work.”
Rule 6. Make the other person feel important—and do
it sincerely.
“The desire to be important is the deepest urge in human nature.” (John Dewey) “Helping people feel important and appreciated works magic.”
Making someone feel important is a good way to make them like you and become your friend. One good way to make them feel important is by accepting them just the way they are. Don’t judge them because of how they look or their beliefs. Show them your admiration showing them you admire something they have done can mean a lot to them. It makes the person feel loved and happy when they know someone admires what they have done. Listen carefully to them while they speak and let them talk till they are done. You can even ask the person questions so that they can see you are interested in what they are saying. Never criticize what they tell you and with the things they trust you with. Do not complain because that lowers the person’s self-esteem and that’s not good. Always be nice to them and help out as much as you can because you don’t know when you will need of them. Worry about them when you see them sad or going through a tuff time go and ask what’s wrong. For example, they score a high grade in their test show them that you are happy for them and proud.
Rule 6. Make the other person feel important—and do
it sincerely. “The desire to be important is the deepest urge in human nature.” (John Dewey) “Helping people feel important and appreciated works magic.”
Making someone feel important is a good way to make them like you and become your friend. One good way to make them feel important is by accepting them just the way they are. Don’t judge them because of how they look or their beliefs. Show them your admiration showing them you admire something they have done can mean a lot to them. It makes the person feel loved and happy when they know someone admires what they have done. Listen carefully to them while they speak and let them talk till they are done. You can even ask the person questions so that they can see you are interested in what they are saying. Never criticize what they tell you and with the things they trust you with. Do not complain because that lowers the person’s self-esteem and that’s not good. Always be nice to them and help out as much as you can because you don’t know when you will need of them. Worry about them when you see them sad or going through a tuff time go and ask what’s wrong. For example, they score a high grade in their test show them that you are happy for them and proud.
I will apply
this at school with my friends and also with my siblings at home. Ill try my
hardest to make them feel important.
“How you
make others feel about themselves says a lot about you.”
Reflection : This six rules that we have learned are going to be very helpful. They will help me get along better with people and they will help me have more friends. It is something i can use while I'm in school or while I'm out in the streets meeting new people. Applying this will make it so much easier for me to talk to people without having trouble.
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